Thirty percent of men using an online dating service are married. At least on Ashley Madison you know what you’re getting!
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An MSNBC survey states that 30% of men using an online dating service are married. Alas, women rank slightly less! Online dating sites have created a wily playground for scammers, romance artists and married men (and women) who secretly cheat on their spouses. Married men create phony profiles and present themselves as single men looking for love, commitment and marriage. They conceal their true identity with a secret email address, a secondary cell phone, and if necessary a post office box. A single woman’s best defense is to be aware of the warning signs of men who are hiding a wife, children and family dog.
I dated a lot on Match.com and eHarmony, looking for the right man. I dealt with tire-kickers, trailer dwellers and man-skanks. My most memorable correspondence came from an online man whose profile name was TeeUp4Us. He emailed me telling me he had a successful career on Wall Street (a sweetener), he was divorced and he was in the process of moving to Middle Tennessee where I lived. He didn’t have a photo posted but he would forward me recent pictures if I would send him my email address. “You made me smile just looking at your picture and I would love to meet you,” he said.
I didn’t respond because he didn’t post a photo. A week later I received a second message from TeeUp4Us, which read:
“Hi, Jim is married. I am his wife in Pennsylvania. He is not moving to Tennessee. He just goes there during the week to work. We have been married for 3 months. We are newlyweds.”
I wrote Mrs. Teeup4Us back telling her I suspected he was married. I told her she was married to a pathological liar and consummate cheater and she should divorce him before he crushes her heart. And I told TeeUp4Us, “If you’re reading this you’re a lying, cheating scumbag.”
If you’ve used a dating site even a little bit these fishy scenarios have happened to you:
An online man emails you saying he is closing his dating site account but at the last minute he saw your profile, he was extremely attracted to you and he asks you to send him your email address so he can correspond with you. You feel uncomfortable communicating with a strange man outside a secure website. You’re right to trust instincts because the quicker an online man can garner personal information about you, the easier it is to seduce and hoodwink you.
After a series of email correspondence with an online man, he sends you his phone number and he asks you to call him (he puts the monkey on your back because he says he doesn’t want to be forward). You call him and he doesn’t answer and he waits a day or two to return your call, or he emails you saying, sorry he missed your call but he was in a meeting, he has bad reception on his phone, blah, blah, blah. A married man has to wait to call you when he is away from his wife.
He emails you, telling you are a beautiful, fascinating woman and he would love to get to know you better. But when you click on his profile his account is closed. A married man will hop on and off of a dating website because he is afraid of being caught with his fly open.
He emails and texts and even calls you regularly for a month or more, but he never makes plans to meet you in person or he cancels his trip at the last minute. Don’t be afraid to call him out, tell him you’re not interested in a cyber relationship. Either he meet in person to see if there is a connection, or you’re off to bigger, better game.
The one thing I have come to know about married men who cheat (on and off online) is: they are uber-confident and uber-charming. They can be this way because they only want a fling and they don’t intend to leave their wives.
There are distinct warning signs that an online man may be married (or have a girlfriend). When in doubt, ask yourself these questions:
Tip: Married men online are more likely to initiate the first contact on a dating site.
If you are dating a long-distance man, ask yourself these questions:
Hint: married men will date out-of-state women to conceal their immoral activities.
The burden of proof of whether a man is single or married is on you.
I learned to pay attention to my knee-jerk instincts about an online man. I asked lots of questions and I studied between the lines. I saved a man’s emails for future reference; a liar will eventually contradict himself. I called him in the evening to see if he would answer his phone and I didn’t buy into his flimsy excuses. I asked direct questions about his work, family and friends and I invited myself to his home. If I was truly interested in a man, I ran a background check on him.
Bottom line: trust your gut. If something about a man doesn’t feel right, stop and ask yourself, WHY?
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Are you a single member at Plenty Of Fish (POF.com) dating site? You are probably searching for a new and 100% free alternative dating site due to recent changes at POF. There is some background information you need to know about POF in order to understand their recent changes, and why you will want to join our dating site instead.
Background:Plenty Of Fish is probably the most famous online dating site in the world. It was one of the first and has been around for well over a decade, and has (or had) the most members of any other site. What made this site so popular is that they prided themselves in offering a completely 100% free dating service, which was very attractive. Markus Frind, the founder of Plenty Of Fish, was the owner of the company from when it launched in 2003 up until 2015. Anyone familiar with Plenty of Fish have probably heard of him and his dedication to offering a free dating service for everyone.
Recently in 2015, POF was acquired by new owners. Markus sold the company to Match Group, which is a massive company that owns a huge number of online dating sites, including OKCupid, Match.com, Tinder, Chemistry, OurTime, Meetic, SinglesNet, DateHookup and many other big name dating brands. Many of these sites charge big monthly payments just to sign up, or they charge money for upgrading accounts so users can use more features.
Many POF members do not realize that Plenty Of Fish has new owners, but they do know all about the 'free' model slowly transitioning into a 'paid' model. With all the major dating sites being acquired by a single company, there are fewer and fewer free sites out there. Those free sites that were acquired, are slowly turning into paid sites. Josh, a former POF member says: 'I knew Plenty Of Fish was beginning to charge more money, but now I realize this isn't Markus's fault, the site is now run by a completely different company and this single company has a near-monopoly on almost all popular dating sites today, especially ones that used to be free'.
Recently, members there may have noticed that they can no longer search for specific usernames and rumors are spreading that this will soon become a paid feature for upgraded members only. Even more recently, visitors to the site realized that they could no longer search for members on POF at all, unless they signed up and became a registered member. They could no longer search the site anonymously as a guest - they have to be logged in. Joanne explains: 'More and more, they are moving features that used to be completely free, into the upgraded tier where you have to pay an upgrade fee to use those features that used to be free. Others like me are looking for an [free] alternative to POF, and that's why the membership and activity is slowly dying off, when there used to be well over 100+ million visits per month at POF.'
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